If someone had told me how hard being a mom was before I was one, I wouldn’t have believed it. As the youngest of three children, I never really had too much of a chance to mother others. My needs were always cared for and I learned from a young age to thrive with independence. Now that I am a mother of three, I have found even my kids are needy, inconvenient, and always demanding- and yet I show up (nearly) every moment as a mom with joy and pride to nurture and play with my kids (who are super-kids by the way). I have often said that mothering ourselves isn’t really all that different than mothering others. It can feel pretty demanding and needy to take time away from work, family, or friends to do something like workout, seek solitude, or simply take a nap. And yet self-care has an incredibly overlooked importance in all of our lives.
Without self-care we don’t have the energy or patience to give to others authentically.
And self-care doesn’t have to take much time, energy, or money.
Here’s a few ideas to get you started, whether you are an altruistic mother, aunt, sister, or friend. It doesn’t matter what your motherly status. Take today and honor yourself for the gifts you generously give to others.
- Take a walk
- Listen to your favorite music
- Read a juicy book or blog
- Call a friend
- Sip some yummy tea
- Take a bath
- Eat some chocolate
- Take a nap
- Drink some infused water
- Look through some old photos with your family
- Visit a local art museum or botanical garden
- Go for a road trip
- Book a mini-retreat
- Try a new class (art, yoga, fitness, French, kick-boxing, belly dancing, etc.)
Whatever you choose, choose it for you. As a mom (no matter whether you have birthed or reared kids of your own or not), you are a nurturer and giver who deserves to take a few moments each day to focus on feeling great in your own skin. Sort of like giving yourself a little hug each day.
“Of all the roles I’ve played, none has been as fulfilling as being a mother.” -Annette Funicello
For all of the "mom's" out there who have loved me, nurtured me, believed in me, and supported me. This post is for you. I sincerely hope that you can take a few moments today and give yourself a mommy hug that lingers. I love you all.